Get Real
- May 6th, 2010
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As a lurker in the Pick-Up Artist/Game community, I have come to the conclusion that Game, for most guys, is a gimmick. Guys work their tired angles like they wear an article of clothing:
- They rock the striped button down, or the Ed Hardy schwag, trying to look like a million bucks.
- Of course, they’re still wearing sneakers. It doesn’t matter how new or nice, they’re fucking sneakers.
- So they upgrade to some designer knock-off club shoe. It’s the only pair they own, and they’re still wearing jeans.
- So they buy slacks, and a watch, and before you know it they’re a new man!
Unfortunately, underneath the Emperor’s new clothes, they’re the same stupid douchebag decked out in Club Costume. No matter how nice the wrapper, if it feels unnatural it will look unnatural.
Gimmick Game works the same way.
If you set out to be the Funny Guy, or the Cool Guy or the Tough Guy, the process doesn’t end with the right set of clothes and a couple of parlor tricks. Pretending is not being.
Six weeks of BJJ and an Affliction t-shirt don’t make you a tough guy. When you walk into a dive bar and order a couple of Jaeguh Bommz, everyone in the place knows you’re a nitwit.
Likewise, working routines and gimmicks will fall flat when they don’t represent You, the guy underneath.
What’s more, Game itself is a gimmick.
Most one-night stands don’t deserve to be called “conquests”, and having a few of them does not make you a man. Eventually, most guys will settle into a relationship. Do you want to be in a relationship with a woman who liked you for being something you’re not?
Wait until she finds out that the watch is a fake and the ‘Slade belongs to your brother.
If you manage to pull off the gimmick past Date Three, be prepared for the consequences of a) fucking her and running or b) her discovering that you’re completely full of shit.
If you want to be the Cool Guy with lots of toys and money, forget about the half-gram of stepped on blow and the designer knock-offs. Work hard, get a real job, bust your ass. Being the Cool Guy isn’t about getting laid, that’s just a perk.
Work 80 hour weeks, then decide if the perks are worth the real price of entry.
If you want to be the Tough Guy, try a 5 AM wake-up for a 6 AM workout with a hangover from clubbing. Try bleeding into the carpet of a sheriff’s sub-station, giving a statement with a BAC of 0.18.
Try something else.
Gimmick Game is all about putting on an unnatural front to hide your shabby self. Rather than devote effort to pretending to be someone worth fucking, why not devote that effort to BEING someone worth fucking.
I might have dirt under my nails and a chip on my shoulder, but I don’t turn into a pumpkin at midnight. I don’t have to buy over-priced drinks with no booze in them. I don’t have to memorize lines or routines.
I can say No to a woman because I don’t care if it turns her off.
And if it does, I can go home and jerk off because I don’t give a fuck if anyone thinks I’m a master Player.
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ah, when i watch the ufc this weekend….the affliction shirts will arise like some faker army. sigh.
Truer words have never been said.
But isn’t that ‘Inner Game’ is all about? (I like to think of it as a perverted merger between Satanism and Buddhism – find inner peace, because you want to. But your reason for wanting that is to remain sane and to be awesome)
I know with myself at least, forcing an ‘alpha’ mindset has become ‘natural’ to me. It is me. I’m happy to pose, tease, bully, stride, lead, judge as I see fit. And if i don’t get the girl or don’t get some sort of approval, then whatever, I don’t give a shit. It’s nice, but when you’re cut enough times, you stop bleeding.
As for the look – I like the taste of whisky, vodka and my personal tipple of choice – ouzo (Greek aniseed spirit). Helps that I have Greek blood and the cultural mindset. Following on from that – I like suits and they fit well on me.
‘Inner Game’ is ostensibly about internalizing the act.
My gripe is that men really ought to consider what they are internalizing. Look at some of the attitudes that the Player community has, look at the people involved, and decide that way if it’s something you want to be a part of.
As far as Game goes, there are a few pearls of wisdom, a lot of swine, and a whole bunch of people missing the point.
What, like ‘Mystery’ – a nerd that figured some shit out, grew some balls but is also bat shit crazy.
There’s a difference between learning how to man up and being a PUA. Being a PUA would have its perks, but for the effort required and the low quality (in terms of long term) girls you’ll get, no thanks. I’ll stick to steady crop of nerdy or religious girls. (though I’m not about to go and turn away a bar skank that comes onto me)
Agree. This is exactly why the whole LTR thing falls apart on PUA types.
Does a subdural hematoma and blood trickling out your ear with a .27 BAC stand for anything (besides stupid)?
It isn’t Saturday morning without DTs.